In the ultimate human curiosity, the more and more you start doing well at something, the more and more people will try to cut you down.
Sometimes they don’t even realize they’re doing it. They’ll say things like, “Are you really sure that’s the right decision? What if something goes wrong? What if you don’t make enough money?” This is called being a concern troll.
It’s one thing if it’s your friend or co-worker. Just block them on FB, duh.
But what if it’s your brother? Your mom? Your dad? How are you supposed to handle family members that second-guess you…and make you feel bad about your choices?
I want to tap the wisdom of the IWT community to see how you’d deal with it.
Check out this question I got from an IWT reader:
“I love [my family] and want them happy. They wallow in misery and blame me for it. I feel very tied to them although I should just let go. How do you let go of the living who have become a source of poison and sickness in your life when you are related to them and have known them your whole life?”
I want to ask you TWO questions.
1. How has this happened to you? Specifically, if you’ve ever had a family member be unsupportive, what exactly did they say? (Did they come right out and say, “That’s a bad decision!” Or were they more subtle about it?)
2. How would you recommend this person deal with their unsupportive family? What exactly should they do?
(Btw, don’t just say “Cut them out of your life!” These are family members that they love and can’t turn their back on.)
Share your answer in the comments below.
Update: check out the hundreds of comments below. There are many great examples of how people just like you are dealing with unsupportive family members.
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